Finding Your “Why?”


I was at a leadership conference last week and this week I have spent a lot of time reading and listening to podcasts. One thing seems to keep jumping out at me over and over, which to me is usually a sign from the Universe to pay attention to it. “What is your Why?”  is the question that keeps popping up. This can apply to a whole host of things,  and as you might have guessed, I have been pondering it as it relates to my coaching journey and what it is that has really gotten me feeling so passionate about it.

My Why? is a combination of a few different aspects, as I imagine it is for you. Wanting to make a difference in the world, believing that I have a gift to share, and wanting not only for myself to start focusing on the positives of humanity, but also to help others do the same.

I spent 5 years earning a doctorate in how people’s minds work, and why people get off track, what causes problems, troubles, hindrances, etc. to the mind working the way we would desire. These things are important and I’m grateful I have the knowledge that I do. And yet, I find myself drawn in to the why of happiness. What makes people flourish? What brings self-confidence? What makes people feel passion, inspiration, hope? Maybe these topics aren’t as sexy as all the interesting aspects of Clinical Psychology I was once drawn to, but hope, optimism, and courage are things I want to bring to the world.

My Why? is also of course for my family, to teach my children these things, to ultimately be more available to them, to shift my own energy towards the positive as well. This is hardly my whole Why? and I think that likely this will continue to evolve.

So then I ask you, what is your Why? For your career? For your choice to spend your days the way your do? For getting up in the morning? For your workout? Your food choices? Your parenting style? Your general life purpose…

Do you know? Have you thought about it? What provides your life with meaning? What sets your soul on fire? What could you talk about endlessly, that lights you up from the inside out? If we don’t know why we are doing something, it is so easy to become disheartened. Things become monotonous, we find ourselves focusing on the minutia of a task, or irritable of the errors of others, rather than seeing the bigger picture of purpose or what we can contribute.

This week, I encourage you to think about this. Journal on it. Think about your overall  life Why?, or separate it out by topic. Just brainstorm, as there is no “right” answer. Let this be something to inspire you to move towards it if you have gotten off track or to define it this is new for you. I’d love to hear what you come up with!

As always, if you would like some one on one coaching around something related to this or moving through barriers that have kept you stuck, I’d love to talk more with you. Please see my contact page for information on setting up a free 60 minute consultation call with me.

Love, Light, and Gratitude,




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